Good evening my dearest, how are you? Or should I ask, how are your kids, or inner children? Today is June 1st, so, as it’s knowns, not only the first day of summer but also, International Children’s day.

So, how did you spend it?

I’ll leave think about it while I share with you 2 things:

• A talk to the inner child
• Thoughts

A talk to the inner child

 Hei, you! Yes, you! The one inside, that is afraid to talk, from all the times you were silenced. Yes, you, the one that never makes eye contact, because it feels intimidated by this ginormous world. You, the one that never shares his thoughts and opinions, cause you’ve been told you’re wrong… every single time.

You, the one that never dances in public, cause people told you that only strippers do it. You, who is afraid to break something, to make noise, to be seen or heard. You, the one that isn’t sure about how real love feels, the one embarrassed by the attention that is needed. 

I want you to know that you can come into the light! That you have room to express yourself without being judged for tantrums. Out here, now, there is room for your thoughts and opinions, for your actions, and laughs, and dances and cries.

There is room in this world for your personality, for you to take action, to say yes, but most importantly to say NO. Say no to whatever makes you uncomfortable, say no to emotional blackmail, and say no to things that can dime your light. Come into the light and be YOU, cause you are LOVED, SEEN, and APPRECIATED. You are not a burden, remember that, when you feel down, or lonely, remember your role in this world, and step out!

Thoughts about inner child and International children’s day

Every day, I see kids. It’s my job, so it’s normal, but, besides my job, I see children every single day. I see them in businessmen, in a leader, in doctors, in families, in couples, in friends, in me.

I see them, fighting to get into the light. I see them seeking attention, with drugs, alcohol, affairs, gambling, and other vicious activities. I see them in people with breakdowns, with anxiety, in people who overshare. I see them, in people with many specific traits, different from one another, but all of them are pretty mad at this kid.

Remember the days when we were young? 

Do you remember the dreams, the hopes, the fears?

Do you remember what made you happy? What made you excited? What made you cry, made you fear, made you behave?

Remember what meant to behave? Remember what means to be naughty?

Remember the feelings that you had when you were validated? But the feelings you had when you were put into place?

No matter the age, you have that kid inside from childhood until you die, so you can accept, form a team, heal, and have the best time of your life. Or, you can continue to shut him up, keep him closed, and as a “naughty child he is”, when he’ll escape, in his innocence and need for attention, you’ll find him guilty for all the bad outcomes. And you’ll put him back in place, and the cycle repeats itself. 

As my therapist once said, a human without traumas is a glass one, and, when the wind starts, it will break from a sand grain, that small and insignificant, that it was carried in the air. So, it’s normal that you have an inner child hurt. It’s also normal to heal it.

My inner child overshares, speaks out loud, doesn’t say I love you, has a fear of being seen and exposed, overthinks, is a perfectionist, and always says yes. Why?

Well, it’s been shut in family and at school, he didn’t have too many friends to listen to him, was been told to behave, was emotional blackmailed, didn’t hear I love you often, and many times when he heard it, it felt like a lie, he has been punished for things that were out of his control and things that he didn’t do perfectly?

By who? By everyone, intended or not, but most importantly and worse, by me.

Now, he is by my side, ad we work on our relationship, we are a team. 

So, I’m asking again, how did you spend International Childre’s day? You were at the park with your kids? Did you work? Did you sleep? Did you travel? Have you allowed your inner child to be outside today, for his anniversary?

I really hope, you’ll think about what shared with you here! Feel free to follow me for more, and read more on Dreamer and IG. Also, if you are Romanian or consider traveling to Romania, feel free to check my latest collaboration project.

Have #adreamerlife,

Cristiana Apreutese