Dreamer

Hello there, and happy Wednesday!

In light of my previous articles, where I focused on those who feel the need to take center stage this Friday, I think it’s essential to take a closer look and approach for those who feel like not celebrating.

Valentine’s Day is a very commercial holiday, the same as Christmas, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Easter in the last few years. The thing is, with all the unnatural-shaped plastic hearts and roses, Valentine’s Day looks like a cheap excuse to overconsume.

So, are those who stay put and don’t celebrate in the wrong?

I would love to be impartial, but being born on 14 February makes me celebrate anyway because if I learned something in therapy is that you must celebrate yourself, so I take the chance at least once a year.

However, since I started dating, I think I wasn’t alone on my birthday, and I kind of got two presents or at least two bouquets, one for my birthday and one for Valentine’s.

And that made me think, if I wasn’t born on this day, would I make a big deal out of it every year?

The thing is, I am a romantic at heart, but I had my fair share of broken hearts, and I think that if the circumstances were different, I wouldn’t go all out for this day. Or at least, not the traditional way.

I am all the way pro to celebrating love, but I think it’s useless to have a day to celebrate when you don’t celebrate it daily. And I also think that love comes in many forms: self-love, romantic love, platonic love, and I think equally important is family love.

When every single day, you’re ignored, mistreated, even abused, and suddenly February 14th comes, and you get all the roses, all the attention, open your eyes, because it’s love bombing, not love.

When all of a sudden the phone rings and there are dinner reservations, you are not selfish and playing hard to get if you refuse. I actually think you made the right move because you show a self-love act, a preservation move.

When you are not impressed by a chocolate box and a trembled fake, I’m sorry, you are not wrong.

When you actually say no to a proposal that came too early or too late, or that is a copycat proposal of hundreds of people that are staying in front of a kneeled human, just because it doesn’t represent you and only highlights the fact that the other one knows nothing about you, you are in the right.

When you choose not to celebrate, you are going to be okay. You are not losing your self-esteem; you are not cursed to an unloving life!

But this is just my humble opinion…

Until next time, I hope you have #adreamerlife!

Cristiana Apreutese