Dreamer

It’s tacky, that’s why!

Just good morning and happy Friday, everyone!

After falling asleep with my Pinterest moldboard in hand and with this series of Valentine’s, unfortunately, my subconscious thought that it was time to get married and popped up so ruby rings in my dreams. Fear not, it’s not time, and the wedding bells are not close. Even more, maybe it’s the fact that I’m rewatching Sex and the City, and I relate so much with Carry, but I don’t hear them at all.

However, today’s topic isn’t about me; it’s about and for you all who think that Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to propose, eventually in Paris. And my job is to discourage such behavior.

Valentine’s Day, what is known today as another commercial holiday, should be about love. And in most cases, if you ignore all the pink plastic hearts and roses, it is.

But proposing on this day? You don’t need more than two neurons to realize it isn’t romantic and special. Au contraire, it’s so lame and cliche it only screams I don’t know you at all!

Unless the other one hasn’t given you a hint that such a proposal is what is desired, trust me, you have better options.

Proposing on Valentine’s Day is a trend that keeps on living despite its occurrence. It screams low effort, because:

• Why to struggle this year to find a gift? Just buy that damn ring, and you’ll be okay.
• You already bought her flowers.
• You already took her out.
• You already “have” to dress nice.
• You already put in the effort; why bother another time?

And this is the beginning of the list!

Anyone in a long-term relationship with plans to form a family wants their proposal to be special! Want to know that when they accept, they accept a union with someone who knows them so well, who understands that this occasion has to be about them, not about a holiday.

Every one of us, male or female, wants to be special and to be loved, accepted and praised for who we are. So, giving a trip to Paris on 14th February, just to eat dinner at Tour Eiffel and to pop the question next to 100 other questions, isn’t really a dream come true.

A dream come true is a proposal in the place you fell in love or where you first kissed. For some, it is in the intimacy of their home; for others, it is in their favorite vacation spot. In the peak of the mountains or in a wildflower field while having a picnic. Maybe while scuba diving, some like it under the tree, but that’s another story to tell.

Proposals aren’t on size fits all, and I know it’s easy, but love isn’t meant to be easy.

Love is meant to take effort, and if not, starting with the proposal?

To me, proposing on Valentine’s Day is like bringing me red roses on Valentine’s Day when you know I’d rather take a cactus. When you hear me, all year round, bitching about some peonies, and you still bring me so damn ass dusty-ass roses that everyone’s buying, you do make me feel so special. At least buy an already pre-made bouquet with a mix of flowers and scrunch up some lies about how each flower represents something, and I’ll see the effort. But don’t come to me with what the other interested boyfriends come.

Valentine’s Day, like proposal days, is special. These days are meant to show how much we love and appreciate, but more importantly, how much we know each other!

So, unless hints aren’t shown, don’t propose on Valentine’s Day!

Yet, as always, have #adreamerlife!

Cristiana Apreutese