Dreamer

Hello there and happy Tuesday!

If this month is about love, it’s essential to discuss romantic relationships as well. Romantic relationships often come wrapped in dreamy ideals, whispered promises, and a touch of magic that disappears once the honeymoon phase is over. Most of us even grow up believing in effortless connections, grand gestures, and soulmates who instinctively understand our every thought. But love, in its most beautiful form, is not about perfection—it’s about intention and actions.

Romance vs. Reality

The spark that ignites a love story is intoxicating, but real love is built in the quiet moments, the small choices, and the steady commitment to growth. Beyond butterflies and candlelit dinners lies the heart of a true relationship: two people choosing each other, day after day, through everything in life.

A romantic relationship isn’t just about finding someone who completes you and who gives you butterflies (which is actually anxiety)—it’s about being whole on your own, real, and creating a partnership that enhances both of your lives. That means embracing the imperfections and and continuously learning how to love one another better.

Intentional Love

Many relationships fade not because the love disappears but because the effort does. Love isn’t something that happens to us; it’s something we cultivate. So, how do we nurture it?

1. Prioritize Presence: In a world full of distractions, the most romantic thing you can give is your undivided attention. Put down the phone, look into their eyes, and truly listen. The connection deepens when we feel seen.
2. Speak Their Language: Love languages matter. Whether it’s words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, physical touch, or gifts, understanding how your partner receives love transforms the way you show it.
3. Embrace Growth—Love isn’t static. Both of you will change over time, and the magic lies in growing together rather than apart. Keep learning about each other, even years down the line.
4. Communicate with Kindness: Conflict is inevitable, even healthy, but it doesn’t have to be destructive. Speak to understand, not to win. Approach disagreements with curiosity and respect, rather than defensiveness.
5. Keep the Romance Alive: Routine can dull the sparkle, but romance isn’t about grand gestures—it’s about thoughtful ones. A handwritten note, a spontaneous date night, a messy dinner, or remembering how they take their coffee all keep love feeling fresh.

Love That Feels Like Home

At the end of the day, the best relationships aren’t just about passion; they’re about peace. It’s about knowing you have someone who chooses you, even on the days when love feels less like a fairytale and more like a quiet understanding. It’s about being loved, not just for your best moments but in your most unguarded ones.

So, if you’re in love, make sure you take care of it. If you’re searching for love, build a life you love first. And if you’re healing, know that the right love—the kind that stays, grows, and makes you better—is worth the wait and truly around the corner. I should know better! And if you feel stuck for this Valentine’s, try this for inspiration!

Until next time, I hope you have #adreamerlife, filled with love!

Cristiana Apreutese