Hello dreamers and happy Tuesday!
As stated before, the New Year comes with so many goals, plans, and dreams. Many of them are related to growth, either personal, financial, spiritual, or professional.
This race, which we all are guilty of volunteering in, usually consumes most of our time. And while any kind of growth is desired, it’s important to remember that what differentiates us from robots, is that we living beings are social creatures and we also learn and evolve in society.
It’s important to remember that we start with our little social group called family, then we grow it to friends and schoolmates, lovers, then work colleagues, and so on until the end of life.
It’s a natural process that any other creatures engage in, litters of cats, beehives, flocks of birds, name it, and trust me, it’s a social entity.
However, as the most developed creature we know on this planet we suffer from the know-it-all syndrome, and we might choose loneliness over social life with many excuses starting with ” quality over quantity, I prefer to use this time for me and not for others, it’s time to grow, I was social in kindergarten, I’m better off alone, they don’t know shit, I’m misunderstood.
And I am here to debunk these carefully chosen lines with some news for you!
- Growth happens in uncomfortable situations and under pressure! When you are spending your days working more, however from your cozy little spot, (no matter what kind of work are we talking about from the ones we mentioned before), it just means you had it in you, you were too lazy to apply it already. It’s not growth it’s embracing what you already can and should do. The most uncomfortable situations are usually with family and friends who really love and care for you. Why? Because they grow differently from you, and with time passing by, your values change. When this happens, it’s important to remember that growth can also mean to be able to downgrade your elevate speech so they can understand your job, it also means to let it go, and choose not to engage when you are provoked and to be ok with it!
- Growth happens when you look from a different angle. Usually, we get so attached to things and to our little projects that we can’t have an objective opinion, and, outside looks usually are the easy way to a fresh perspective.
- No matter what kind of social group you are in and your growing goals, you’ll always have something new to learn from and encounter with it. Even if it is what not to do, say, make, or so on.
- Social groups are like little lab rats. As long as you are honest about it, you can pretty much test your new skills, and or ask opinions. I know usually the strangers are the ones that support us more, our close ones care even more, and this is why they might be worried.
- When you achieve your goals, you’ll need people to celebrate. And remember, loneliness is the worst disease of all. Even Scrooge ran from it to the heart of his family and friends.
So, with these five points of view, I encourage you to seek social connection and to work on your relationships at least as much as you are working on your goals. People grow out of each other, and change perspectives, however, if love and respect were the reason there was a relationship to begin with, the other things shouldn’t matter.
After all, growth is also accepting that people change, and don’t share the same values, but this is not a reason to give up, but to look at each other with understanding, support, and respect.
But yeah, this is just a dreamer’s opinion. I’ll leave all the grind
culture does its own thing until burnout then search for remedies!
However, I wish you all #adreamerlife, no matter your life decisions!
Dreamer 