Dreamer

loyalty/ˈlɔɪəlti/noun

1. the quality of being loyal.”his extreme loyalty to the Crown”
   • a strong feeling of support or allegiance.plural noun: loyalties“rows with in-laws are distressing because they cause divided loyalties”
     

Yeah, well this is how loyalty is defined, but what does it really mean?

In my opinion loyalty is a feeling, maybe a way to live, to behave, but most important it is a quality you either have or not. It should not be talked about loyalty only in love relationships when it comes to cheating.

Loyalty is when you don’t talk bad behind your friend’s back, or when you defend a person you don’t talk to anymore, when you consider a person your friend even if they don’t, even the fact that you keep your diets means that you are loyal, to yourself.

Yeah, you can be loyal to yourself by being true to yourself. YOU are the most important person in your life. At the end of the day is only you and you. Loyalty to self is first that should be kept, because it gives you a motivation and a point to start and one to finish.

The opposite of loyalty? BETRAYAL

• an act of betraying someone or something, or the fact of someone or something being betrayed

You can’t say you are loyal “as long as”. Loyalty should not have a time limit, a limit point.

To whom we are loyal to?

In general, we are loyal to those we love, because we want to protect them, to make them happy, to show them that they are important to us, but what happens when something happens. When they hurt us? Are we still loyal to them or we betray? Are we showing the love or we want to fight back? To hurt them back?

Yeah. I know most of the answers.

I’ve been betrayed and few times I did betray too, I am loyal to people who betrayed me long time ago and some people I’ve betrayed showed me loyalty even now.

Lesson here

Loyalty is a quality you either have or not, but also a quality you can have if you are willing to learn from your mistakes, to improve yourself and “rise above” even when you don’t want to.

I have started this article a long time ago and I could not finish it. Why? Maybe because of a lack of inspiration, maybe because I have not wrote it in the heat of the moment when I was betrayed, or maybe because deep down I just knew that sometimes I do this too.

Right now, after my definition, I am loyal, but it was not the case before. I want to improve myself, and staying loyal is one of the things I am focused on. But this is just me and my definition.

Crissu