Dreamer

Let’s talk about today’s friendships! Why? Well, I think this topic it’s a really important one for each of us.

People often asked me why I do stay alone or with just one person . Why I do not spend time with different groups. My answer it’s simple: I do prefer quality over quantity, and truth over falsity.

In my opinion friends are the family we choose, are our reflection, our safety nets, so why not make the most of it?

If you pay a little more attention to those so called “friendships” and “BFF’S”, it’s probably that you’ll see two or more people, pretending that they like each other in order to get differnt benefits. You’ll see them complimenting each other, saying how much they appreciate what the other does, saying that they are so lucky and so on. Exactly, I am talking about those groups with IG/FB posts/stories with #squadgoals, #myfriendsarebetterthanyours, #theyhateuscausetheyain’tus. And most of the time, those people saying those nice things about each other in public, are the ones who are talking badly about each other in private. And the worst part is that they tell private things, cause you know… at first there is trust and they share things, not knowing a knife in the back might come that way.

Most of them do know this things and still accept them. Why? Well … benefits! During school, high school, college, grades are the main reason why this happens. I mean, you all know those 4-5 friends with biggest grades and that dreamy friendship, until graduation at least… . After that, if they meet face to face and say hello it’s a thing.

After that when you start working you’ll see people really tied up one with the other, going out in weekends, holidays together, everything milk & honey until a promotion occurs and … boom those friends who would have covered you, who would help you finish your work in time, will dissapear.

You’ll observe similar situations in society too. People bounding, going out, party together, events together, and then they steal the other’s boyfriend, husband…

I do prefer my friendships to be real. I prefer a friendship where I can be myself without being judged, where I can call at 5 a.m and know that I will find help. I do prefer to have few friends and struggle to make it out together, than having lots and trading them on my way to success. I prefer to give a chance to everyone. I prefer that when I say “My BFF” to mean My Best Friend Forever not My Best Fake Friends.

But again, this is just me… What about you?

Crissu